Make decisions that bring positive change


Life brings tough battles. For me, I grew up in a divorced family by age five. I struggled with anger and confusion through my youth. While my family provided support, I struggled emotionally. I grew up below poverty level living on government-assisted programs, raised by a single mother. By age 15, I began working to help support needs at home. My senior year of high school, I was raising my eldest son, who will be 21 this year.

Attending school full time, working full time, and trying to raise a family, the pressures of life were difficult because of my choices. Similar to my childhood, when my son was five, the relationship with his mother ended. I moved from Virginia to North Carolina to search for a stable job.

Over the course of the next few years, I began my law enforcement career. To attend the police academy, I stopped working full time and began part time hours, picking up extra shifts where time allowed. In January, 2004, I started my law enforcement career.

In June, 2004, I married my bride. Working full time, pursuing a college education full time and raising a family, 15 years later and two boys, I reflect on life’s decisions. Somewhere along life’s journey, I chose to stop making consistent poor decisions that affected family, others and myself. I chose decisions that propelled positive changes, helped others, and reflected the family values my family instilled. One of those was a decision to surrender my life to Christ.

June is a special month for me because it marks several special occasions in my life. Fifteen years of marriage; service as a chief of police; and graduation from the FBI National Academy, which causes reflection on the police family. Person County has some of the best law enforcement officers because they care. They serve with their hearts and a passion to improve the quality of life. Deputies, Troopers, Lake Authority, and Roxboro officers.

Just last month, Roxboro officers closed out nearly every unsolved breaking and entering case this year with arrests. They caught one suspect in the act and recovered the victim’s property. Citizens sent accolades for officers doing good deeds, helping veterans, coaching youth sports and more. The collective team effort is something special to watch. Why does it exist? Because of family.

Why give C-T readers of this column a small glimpse of my life that most have never heard? Because without community support, family support, police family support, and church family support, the external pressures of work-life balance would crumble. So, I ask readers, whom do you lean on for support? I hope one pillar is family. A family does not need to be perfect, just united. To my dad, mom, Nanny, my bride, the community and RPD staff, thank you for being a pillar of unity. To my wife of 15 years, I love you more than I can express.

Have a blessed weekend.


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